“When you disagree on strategy or tactics or who to hire or who to layoff - it can strain the friendship,”
Working together in projects is in fact, similar to a game of Chess. Unfortunately, I only know how to move the horse. But that isn't the point.
For those who're interested, there's a book called "How to prevent WWIII while working with friends" by James Mitchell. I've never read it, but I won't mind reading it if I can get my hands on it.
Things mentioned (Those which I think is more applicable):
1) Don't kid yourself. Whenever working with family or friends, a fight will happen. Be ready for it, know it is coming, and learn how to handle it effectively.
2) Don't apply the war to the friendship. You've heard “don't bring work home” likewise don't bring work into your friendship.
3) Do discuss the situation as politely (and calmly) as possible. This will help you figure out what the root of the situation is so it can be addressed.
4) Do offer to help. Some battles begin when your friend is feeling overwhelmed, stressed out, or confused.
5) Do head out for a drink or coffee with your friend. Clear your heads and get your mind off work. You'd be surprised how this can nurture the friendship and extinguish any battle flames.
It's never easy to work with friends on projects. Everyone's entitled to their own opinions and ideas. Heck, even I admit sometimes even I'm not satisfied with the decision made.
There's nothing to do but to get over it. Afterall, life's never fair. So if I actually believe that I will be the one in charge and get MY ideas across with EVERYONE agreeing with me EVERY single time, then I must be seriously dreaming.
'Cause chances are, it'll NEVER happen. - Unless we're working with a bunch of no-brainers. Which thankfully aint the case.
I know that I can be pig-headed stubborn. But I can be blur as a sotong on occasions.
I know that I can be super irritating with my constant reminders and rushing of stuff to be done.
I know that I can constantly cause heart attacks. It wasn't intentional, trust me.
And I know that I can get pissed off easily. Though I gotta defend myself by saying that I believe I have a GOOD reason for being angry.
Then again, it's a matter of perspectives. I might think I'm right. But to you, I may be wrong.
I really don't like group work. I've mentioned it time and again. Again and again.
But that's gonna be how it's gonna be outside. In the real world.
So what are they training us to do?
They want us to stand by what we say and to stick to what we say and to make us believe what we say. Cause in the end, it's the person who manages to convince the others that he/she is doing the right thing - or as close to the right thing as possible who will get the go-ahead.
Conclusion : PATIENCE is a virtue, which I don't possess.
Working together in projects is in fact, similar to a game of Chess. Unfortunately, I only know how to move the horse. But that isn't the point.
For those who're interested, there's a book called "How to prevent WWIII while working with friends" by James Mitchell. I've never read it, but I won't mind reading it if I can get my hands on it.
Things mentioned (Those which I think is more applicable):
1) Don't kid yourself. Whenever working with family or friends, a fight will happen. Be ready for it, know it is coming, and learn how to handle it effectively.
2) Don't apply the war to the friendship. You've heard “don't bring work home” likewise don't bring work into your friendship.
3) Do discuss the situation as politely (and calmly) as possible. This will help you figure out what the root of the situation is so it can be addressed.
4) Do offer to help. Some battles begin when your friend is feeling overwhelmed, stressed out, or confused.
5) Do head out for a drink or coffee with your friend. Clear your heads and get your mind off work. You'd be surprised how this can nurture the friendship and extinguish any battle flames.
It's never easy to work with friends on projects. Everyone's entitled to their own opinions and ideas. Heck, even I admit sometimes even I'm not satisfied with the decision made.
There's nothing to do but to get over it. Afterall, life's never fair. So if I actually believe that I will be the one in charge and get MY ideas across with EVERYONE agreeing with me EVERY single time, then I must be seriously dreaming.
'Cause chances are, it'll NEVER happen. - Unless we're working with a bunch of no-brainers. Which thankfully aint the case.
I know that I can be pig-headed stubborn. But I can be blur as a sotong on occasions.
I know that I can be super irritating with my constant reminders and rushing of stuff to be done.
I know that I can constantly cause heart attacks. It wasn't intentional, trust me.
And I know that I can get pissed off easily. Though I gotta defend myself by saying that I believe I have a GOOD reason for being angry.
Then again, it's a matter of perspectives. I might think I'm right. But to you, I may be wrong.
I really don't like group work. I've mentioned it time and again. Again and again.
But that's gonna be how it's gonna be outside. In the real world.
So what are they training us to do?
They want us to stand by what we say and to stick to what we say and to make us believe what we say. Cause in the end, it's the person who manages to convince the others that he/she is doing the right thing - or as close to the right thing as possible who will get the go-ahead.
Conclusion : PATIENCE is a virtue, which I don't possess.
